Today I read about a mother who was unhappy with the manner in which a woman treated the mom's son. The short of it is that the lady pointed out the boy's (perfectly normal) level of acne and offered him a treatment that 'could help him' while handing him her card.
The mother explains how her son was really hurt by the encounter and, although the lady may have been well-intentioned, the interaction seemed cruel.
This kind of interaction is common right now.
Everyone is taking some sort of supplement or is on some sort of diet or selling something that is intended to improve certain aspects of life. The amount of 'offers' I receive on a daily basis, about how I would 'feel better if [I] just took' this or that or the other thing, is staggering. I guess when you put your health issues on display, constant advertisements to buy products from others is to be expected - it makes me an easy target as a potential customer. (Then, if I don't purchase or don't respond, I am berated and told that I 'obviously have no desire to get better'. Yeah, because now I REALLY want to buy your product). Haha.
Here's my issue - while the intention may just be to provide information or to help someone and offer a way that *could* help one's health, peddling a product that you are selling is not the way to do it.
In the story's example, pointing out another's 'flaws', especially common issues that are out of their control, in a moment where they perhaps have BRIEFLY forgotten about them, is inconsiderate at best. Cruel at worst.
Here is my best tip for people who are genuinely trying to help others by providing information on alternative ways to improve health:
If you sell it, don't suggest it.
Lines can get very easily (and justifiably) blurred when you hear about a 'cure' or a 'treatment' from someone who just-so-happens to make cash by turning you into a customer.
If you truly think it will help someone, why not just give a sample? Then (this is the really important part) leave them alone.
If it works, THEY will call YOU. Trust me. Not only that, but if it winds up being beneficial, you can bet that that individual will not just turn into a customer, they will rave about it on social media, maybe they will suggest it to their support groups for people suffering the same symptoms. If you treat them right, if you do manage to help them, you may have more customers than you know what to do with. Word travels quickly in the chronic illness community.
Ever heard the saying 'the road to Hell is paved with good intentions'. Just because the intentions are good does not make the actions right, or considerate.
You may just want to help, but if you suggest something that directly benefits YOU - especially with monetary gain - it may not appear sincere.
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