Today's topic is the idea of acceptance. I am not simply talking about accepting what you have. Chances are, if you are reading my blog, you have already come to terms with whatever personal demons you are dealing with. Acceptance has to penetrate many different areas.
I am going to speak as in a note to myself - these are things that I also need to work on and remember from time to time.
I need to accept what I have AND accept the limitations that come with it. Over the last two years I have gotten better and better at this. I need to always remember to accept any emotions that I may be feeling - without over-analyzing them, without judging them, and most of all, without fighting them. I need to remember that all of my emotions are valid and important - but that they are also no more important than the feelings of any other individual.
I need to accept the fact that I cannot control how others perceive me. I DO NOT need to defend my situation, my 'status', or have my situation validated by anyone else. The opinions that matter are those of the people around me who love me. I need to accept that many people will not understand, many people will judge me, many people will question me. Instead of going on the defensive and trying to explain everything to each person - I just need to accept that those particular people do not understand, and if they want to, they will ask questions in a non-judgmental fashion.
I need to own that if I take offense to something - even though others may be trying to be offensive - taking offense is MY OWN fault. I need to work on accepting what is said and simply accepting it for what it is - words. Words and actions done by others that don't necessarily have anything to do with me.
I need to accept these facts:
- I know exactly who I am and I am proud of who I am.
- I know what I want out of life.
- I have a genuine integrity that does not need to be validated by others.
Relax.
Accept.
Allow.
Live!
I am going to speak as in a note to myself - these are things that I also need to work on and remember from time to time.
I need to accept what I have AND accept the limitations that come with it. Over the last two years I have gotten better and better at this. I need to always remember to accept any emotions that I may be feeling - without over-analyzing them, without judging them, and most of all, without fighting them. I need to remember that all of my emotions are valid and important - but that they are also no more important than the feelings of any other individual.
I need to accept the fact that I cannot control how others perceive me. I DO NOT need to defend my situation, my 'status', or have my situation validated by anyone else. The opinions that matter are those of the people around me who love me. I need to accept that many people will not understand, many people will judge me, many people will question me. Instead of going on the defensive and trying to explain everything to each person - I just need to accept that those particular people do not understand, and if they want to, they will ask questions in a non-judgmental fashion.
I need to own that if I take offense to something - even though others may be trying to be offensive - taking offense is MY OWN fault. I need to work on accepting what is said and simply accepting it for what it is - words. Words and actions done by others that don't necessarily have anything to do with me.
I need to accept these facts:
- I know exactly who I am and I am proud of who I am.
- I know what I want out of life.
- I have a genuine integrity that does not need to be validated by others.
Relax.
Accept.
Allow.
Live!